Almost A Superhuman Ability- Never Married & No kids at the age of 40
While others have grandkids you find yourself competing with your friend’s kids on tinder.
Marriage and family are considered a good lifestyle in general. Except for the people who grew up in an abusive family, where whenever they are always on the run to never want to get back in the same situation as they grew up.
In the modern age, having kids has become a huge responsibility, that a lot of people do a lot of planning, preparation, and consideration before they welcome a new soul into this world.
The world has become so complicated that even grown-up people are only grown-up biologically but not psychologically, emotionally, intellectually not even spiritually. Then it becomes a problem when they are hinged inside a situation where the weight is too much to carry.
Personally, I can’t recall daydreaming about having kids leave alone thinking about doing a big wedding. Besides this, there have also been situations that prevented me from getting into the step of getting married. Now when I look back I realized that deep down I never really wanted to get married.
Should I get Married or Not
Here is the thing, sometimes circumstances speak louder than words, being 40 years old not married, no kids have brought me into a huge realization. Here are some things that I discovered about all of this.
- Remember the work on yourself first part? A lot of people these days have not really grown up in the state of being able to guide and nurture a new baby. I feel I need to stabilize my morals, emotions, intellect, wisdom, and spirituality before I try to have a family. A lot of us have been raised in families that didn’t know what to do with kids after they made sure they are properly fed, sheltered, and dressed. In order to make sure such a thing doesn’t continue we have to unchain ourselves in this kind of habit first.
- Deep down, I want if it is to raise a family, it should be a healthy and spiritual-oriented community. Because of this I simply don’t see any suitable conditions to get attached and raise a family. I mean there are so many problems in the world today, do we really need another human being to throw a plastic bag on the ocean? Do we need another human being to get killed like George Floyd? Do we need another greedy citizen?
The list goes on and on. - Do people of the same vibration exist in this realm? Believe me, it is hard to find people who would see the world the way I see it, They may think they are but they are not. I have met a lot of spiritual and beautiful souls that are going on their paths, but it simply didn’t work out. The reason I believe there is a higher purpose than what this self wants on which I see it clearly now. I could get married to please my friends and family and fit in the society, but my spirit will become crushed, I will be consumed by being responsible for the path that I don’t wish to take.
- What I want is not invented yet, in the world we live in today we have lots of sexuality and orientations. But practically what is the best and proper type of marriage that will stand the tests of time? Because the purpose of getting married or being together with someone else is bigger than individual, when someone is married they become more than self, they become the sum of all members of the family.
A father has to let go of the type of things that don’t bring any benefit to the family and so is the wife, and kids. Back in the days, people lived in clans and tribes, what they do is for the benefit of all and take other members of their tribes as their own. Traditional marriage is good, but with lots of loopholes where people can cheat. What about living in a tribe, instead of possessing someone, just accept them as part of your life and offer yourself unconditionally?
There is simply nothing like that today. They say a child is raised by the village, could we live in a society where someone else child as long as is part of the same tribe is your child?
What’s the Verdict?
I have promised myself unless I live in such a community, I will always withdraw from the current community. I am an eternal being, there is simply no time and no hurry from my perceptive. First I want to create the desired community so that there is a proper and safe landing.
Almost A Superhuman Ability- Never Married & No kids at the age of 40
While others have grandkids you find yourself competing with your friend’s kids on tinder.
Marriage and family are considered a good lifestyle in general. Except for the people who grew up in an abusive family, where whenever they are always on the run to never want to get back in the same situation as they grew up.
In the modern age, having kids has become a huge responsibility, that a lot of people do a lot of planning, preparation, and consideration before they welcome a new soul into this world.
The world has become so complicated that even grown-up people are only grown-up biologically but not psychologically, emotionally, intellectually not even spiritually. Then it becomes a problem when they are hinged inside a situation where the weight is too much to carry.
Personally, I can’t recall daydreaming about having kids leave alone thinking about doing a big wedding. Besides this, there have also been situations that prevented me from getting into the step of getting married. Now when I look back I realized that deep down I never really wanted to get married.
Should I get Married or Not
Here is the thing, sometimes circumstances speak louder than words, being 40 years old not married, no kids have brought me into a huge realization. Here are some things that I discovered about all of this.
- Remember the work on yourself first part? A lot of people these days have not really grown up in the state of being able to guide and nurture a new baby. I feel I need to stabilize my morals, emotions, intellect, wisdom, and spirituality before I try to have a family. A lot of us have been raised in families that didn’t know what to do with kids after they made sure they are properly fed, sheltered, and dressed. In order to make sure such a thing doesn’t continue we have to unchain ourselves in this kind of habit first.
- Deep down, I want if it is to raise a family, it should be a healthy and spiritual-oriented community. Because of this I simply don’t see any suitable conditions to get attached and raise a family. I mean there are so many problems in the world today, do we really need another human being to throw a plastic bag on the ocean? Do we need another human being to get killed like George Floyd? Do we need another greedy citizen?
The list goes on and on. - Do people of the same vibration exist in this realm? Believe me, it is hard to find people who would see the world the way I see it, They may think they are but they are not. I have met a lot of spiritual and beautiful souls that are going on their paths, but it simply didn’t work out. The reason I believe there is a higher purpose than what this self wants on which I see it clearly now. I could get married to please my friends and family and fit in the society, but my spirit will become crushed, I will be consumed by being responsible for the path that I don’t wish to take.
- What I want is not invented yet, in the world we live in today we have lots of sexuality and orientations. But practically what is the best and proper type of marriage that will stand the tests of time? Because the purpose of getting married or being together with someone else is bigger than individual, when someone is married they become more than self, they become the sum of all members of the family.
A father has to let go of the type of things that don’t bring any benefit to the family and so is the wife, and kids. Back in the days, people lived in clans and tribes, what they do is for the benefit of all and take other members of their tribes as their own. Traditional marriage is good, but with lots of loopholes where people can cheat. What about living in a tribe, instead of possessing someone, just accept them as part of your life and offer yourself unconditionally?
There is simply nothing like that today. They say a child is raised by the village, could we live in a society where someone else child as long as is part of the same tribe is your child?
What’s the Verdict?
I have promised myself unless I live in such a community, I will always withdraw from the current community. I am an eternal being, there is simply no time and no hurry from my perceptive. First I want to create the desired community so that there is a proper and safe landing.
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